I’m at least 1.5 years late in making this post. I got inspired by Jenny Mustard, a Llfestyle influencer that I follow, when she posted her 15 life lessons in the past 15 years. I recently entered my 30s, so I should have posted this that time as a right of passage. Anyways, to keep tabs of what I should be applying in this season of my life, I’m sharing below the 10 major life lessons I learned in my 20s.
Moving out of the country – This is probably one of the best decisions that I’ve made in my life so far. It paved the way for many opportunities for me and my partner that we would probably not experience if we continued on with our lives in our home country. It broadened my horizons and made me realise that lives can be lived differently, and cultures not our own should be respected.
The world is not black and white – Growing up in a country with a homogenous society, I lived with “black and white beliefs.” I had specifics of what was right and what is wrong. As a byproduct of migrating at 24, I’ve taken off my “black and white sunglasses” and started to see that a lot of things in life are “colourful”. There’s isn’t just one way of doing things. I can have multiple colours or “beliefs” in my life and I will be just fine.
Building a career – I’ve been working for 11 years, non-stop. I rose up from being an Apprentice to a Team Leader, and now as a Specialist individual contributor (more on that career “U-Turn” on my next post). The career I built allowed me to interact with different people, handle complex situations, understand human motivation and behaviours, and respond to it. Best of all, the career I built enables me to help people solve their problems and achieve their goals.
Social Media – I stopped participating in major social media sites at 29. It certainly helped my mental health and helped channel my energy to other things where I can actually learn something.
Black is good. – I was a PINK lady in my teenage years until my early 20s. Halfway through, I just dropped all the pinkness in my life and embraced black (and navy blue) with all my heart. It’s elegant, It’s versatile, It will fit me until I’m old.
Makeup – From buying a few liquid lipsticks (Thanks Colourpop and Kylie Jenner), I discovered this whole beauty and skincare community at 28. I learned makeup is quite therapeutic and a way to practice creativity, while skincare is indeed a part of self-care. I don’t care what other people thing of it, I wear makeup not to please other people, it’s just to feel a little more confident of myself.
Embracing my darkness – Around 29, I started to accept that perhaps I will deal with my “darkness” for the rest of my days, and instead of hating myself for the things I don’t like about me,I should learn about it, accept it, and alleviate myself of its manifestations when it strikes.
Asking for help – Only when I was 26 that I learned how to seek help and articulate what I need. It’s still very much a work in progress, but I’m glad I was prodded to take the first step and reach out. Now I don’t have to deal with things by myself, and opening to other people will allow me to foster new relationships and help myself more.
Self-care – As another influencer put it, self-care is a VERB. For me, that means (doing my best) staying away from things that trigger an unhealthy lifestyle, staying away from toxic social media, taking in things that will nourish my mind, heart and spirit. It’s not buying a 3-layer cake and eating it all by myself.
Unconditional Love – Our relationship has gone through its growing pains and much, much more. Through my partner, I learned the true meaning of sacrifice, service, forgiveness, patience and understanding.
What have you learned in your past season of life?
Jenny Mustard’s 15 Things I wish I knew in my 20s video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ab7402aZVU&t=105s